Ok, I wasn't going to say anything more negative about Ikemen Desu Ne or You're Beautiful... but this was bothering me. And, actually several things are, but I'll try not to inundate ya'll with too much unless I really have something to say.
So, I've noticed this a lot in Asian Drama's where there are love triangles and love squares and stuff and in this case it doesn't matter who the girl likes. (Cause lets be real, this usually is about a girl and that multiple guys like her cause it's girls and women that watch these shows.) Eventually, the other guys learn that each other likes the girl and they confront each other and they both say something like "I will never give her up!" (Cue the Rick Roll XD) But I have a real problem with this.
Why do I have a problem with this? Simple, put, its selfish. I think why people like love triangles is cause it can be fascinating to see who the character ends up "falling in love with" and I don't mind that, I just have a problem with characters that are so obsessed with themselves that they don't take into account what the other person really wants and deserves. I think writers write love triangles, and make characters say things like "i'll never give up on her" because they want women and girls to feel like, "oh look! so many people love me! its great having to choose between so many people," but really, its just stupid.
I have always been of the mind that if I like a guy and he doesn't like me back, either because he just doesn't or he has a gf or someone else he likes, I would never "fight" for him in the sense that these drama characters do. Like, imagine you're the person that supposedly everyone likes and they are "fighting" for you. It might be fun at first, but really, what they are telling you is that they don't care that you said "no" and they are not respecting your boundaries and feelings. In a small case like this it might just be a one time thing, but a continued disrespect of boundaries is dangerous and real problem in a relationship. I might be taking this down the slippery slope a bit, but I think the only reason the writers write the characters to "fight" each other for one person's love is because they think its sweet. But its' not. In real life, its a problem and it can lead to bigger ones. Ya'll get what I'm saying?
I mean, I've never actually met a person like this, although some of my friends have told me stories of their crazy and obsessed ex's and... its kinda funny, but also really disturbing. No one wants that. And I'm afraid that little girls, and boys, will watch these shows and think that this is what you're supposed to do. But it's not. We all have to respect each other and treat eachother with kindess and dignity. We are all God's children and we're all on the same playing field here.
That being said too, I feel like people and characters get into the "fighting" mode because, for whatever reason, they don't trust God to bring them together with the person best for them. It's all about trusting God and realizing that you're first love, though real, may not be the best one for you and your entire life. That being said, though, I don't mean that you can marry your first love and think "oh it might change, and when it does, I can divorce him/her", NO! Marriage is sacred and you made vows, a promise, under God to stay together and work it out.
Also, I'm not saying that its never ok to "fight" for someone you truly love. It just depends on the situation and what your motivations are. If you really believe that God is calling you to this person and maybe he/she is just in a bad relationship, then it might be ok. But its not ok to "steal" someone's gf or bf away. You've got to just be the best person you can to that person and let them come to you. No stealing allowed! Cause what is someone else if trying to steal you're bf or gf? How would you feel?
So yeah, that's my thoughts on that and I hope it all made sense and that, also, you realize that not everything (or even most things) that happen in drama's, tv-shows, or movies is real and an example of how life should be. You want an example for life? Look at the successful marriages in your family and stuff. Even look at the ones that didn't work so you can learn. And above all, trust in the Lord, because He loves you and He wants what is best for you, and if you're patient and listen to Him he will guide you to exactly where you're meant to go and who you're meant to be with. ^_^
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