So, I'm ain't gonna lie, I got high standards. For myself, and for my future husband. And today, I wanted to talk a bit about boy stuff. I don't think I really have on this blog, mostly because when I would think of things, it'd be too specific, and I don't want to paint bad, limited pictures of people by just complaining on the internet-- not that many people read, this, but still. I don't want to "throw anyone under the bus" so to speak.
I thought, instead, I would try to focus on the things I am looking for in a husband and a bit of what my past experience has been with boys. I wanna keep things positive :)
1. I'm looking for someone who loves the Lord more than he loves me. Now, that's a pretty cliche thing to say for a lot of Christian girls, but the more people I meet, the more I realize that I want and need someone who is "on my level" of God-ness XD Not to say that I am perfect, but day in and day out I really try to do my best to live a life that God would approve of. Now, if you read this blog you know I curse a bit, and, yeah, that's not the best, but... I'm working on it. I'm trying, and I... lets just say I used to try less. But lately, I just really seen and felt God working in me and making me better and I've just felt and been a better person. If you knew me in middle school and high school... you'd know what I meant x"D So basically, for a guy, I want him to be always trying to be more God-like, just like I am. I want him to strive for being the best he can and to do the right thing, even if it means tell ing me "no" XD I know a lot of people say stuff like "happy wife, happy life" but I'm not that kind of person. I want someone who does the right thing, even if I'm wrong. Ya know? (Adding this in later, but it goes with it. I want a man who had the same morals as me. If we're both Christian, we should, but still. Same morals and code of conduct, based on God's Word.)
As far as my personal experience has been with guys and this topic... lets just say that everyone has faltered in some way shape or form. However! I'm willing to "take on" someone who at least recognizes their faults and will try to change. I know people can change, because I have, so even if they aren't "perfect" now, as long as they are willing to try their best and to change, then I'd let my heart open for them. I get, though, that that is a bit dangerous, and that I should probably go for someone that is more "religious" or whatever, but... I've always been the type to like to help people, as long as they themselves were giving it their all. Also, its just really hard to find someone, not already taken, that is already "perfect".
2. Doesn't do stupid stuff. Now, this is a very broad category, but I don't want my future husband to come with addictions like smoking (even weed) or alcoholism or even the addiction to being... not an adult. Ok, I want an adult, someone that, is logical, and knows when something is a bad decision and doesn't do it. And you'd be surprised (maybe, maybe not) how many people I've met that they get crossed out at this point. Most guys, I just think that they don't act like they should for their age and they just aren't ready for a real romantic and life lasting relationship. They are still children, despite their age. Smoking, I'm finding out, is a bigger one that I thought, too, I've recently found out that a lot of my coworkers smoke... and its just a big no. Just a giant no. Unless they actually quit. Cause, seriously, everyone knows now, that smoking kills you, even weed, that shit kills your brain. I've seen... older people that enjoyed doing a variety of drugs and alcohol in their youth and are... not exemplary citizens in their later years. And more that are, instead of arent. So smoking, is a big one for me, and my family. Now, hopefully, if you only smoke "occasionally" you can then learn to live without it at all, otherwise. Naaaaah bruh!
3. He's gotta love my quirks. And boy do I have a lot of them! I can be really weird, and I even already made a blog post about weird things I do!But that doesn't mean I'm weird all the time. I know how to "turn it off" but usually when Im out in public and with friends, "weird me" is turned on, because that me is more fun. And its not that I'm being fake, either, I'm just being a bit more fun so that others have fun too and everyone is smiling and laughing, even if its at me and not with me. XD I really didn't start being "weird" until... like a few years ago. I used to be quiet and didn't care about speaking to new people and stuff, but now I just realize that its fun to make friends and therefore I need to be more outgoing, so I just decided to be and now I dance when no music plays, sing when no one cares and make face at people across the room XD Even if they don't want me to XD
And as far as guys go... sometimes my weirdness is a turn off, and sometimes it just breaks the ice and we get to know each other better. But, once you get to know me more, I'm not as weird and I'm really just normal.
4. He's gotta love me and his actions have to say it. However, don't assume feelings based on actions either. Sometimes they are just really nice, but never think of you romantically... and sometimes they are really nice to you... but you're not the only one they are "nice" to... -_- But thats going into "throwing them under the buss" territory, so that's all I shall say. But anyway, I want someone that is just so happy to be with me, that doing nice things for me, just come naturally, they don't have to try. Because, when I like someone, that's what I do. My mind turns to "what can I do for them?" So I think its fair to want someone who treats me as well as I treat them XD Putting others before himself is a big one, and its a pretty big sign of how "Godly" he is too. He should enjoy doing things and spending time with me, it shouldn't be a chore. Though, I do understand that guys needs to be reminded and we can't treat them as if they read minds. Communication is key.
5. He's a pretty chill dude overall. One thing that annoys me about people in general, is when they legitimately freak out about things that really don't matter. I want someone that is so filled with the peace and love of God that they don't worry about the little things and they look on the bright side of dark situations. I want a man who knows that God is in control and is overall pretty chill. I don't want someone who gets angry really quick or screams or yells. I want someone that can communicate calmly and can see both sides of an argument. I also want someone that is willing to step up to me. Cause I am not a pushover. I wouldn't say that I'm stubborn, but I don't want someone with no spine who lets me do as I please. I want an equal and someone who is... you guessed it, just as chill as me XD
6. Michellaneous. These are things that I'd like, but aren't like deal breakers XD
- Lord, please give him the gift of cooking! I pretty much hate cooking and would love someone who can cook.
- Someone who enjoys the same movies and tv shows I do. Movies are a pretty big part of my life, so it'd be really nice if we could talk about LOTR or Avengers or Star Wars on the same level XD
- A handy man. I'm not the laziest person... but I'd love it it my man could be a classic dude that fixes things and doesn't need to hire someone else to do it, ya know?
The more I think about what I want in a man... the more I realize how... not picky I am XD Basically, I want a good, Godly man, but... he doesn't have to be perfect when I meet him, just willing to do his best, and he needs to be a natural gentleman and treat me like he loves me, but doesn't idolize me. Ya know. I think, after that, the rest come naturally. There are little things that would be nice, but over the years I've come to realize that even height, weight, and skin color don't matter to me. I've liked white dudes, I've liked black dudes, I've liked asian dudes (I mean, kpop, come one XD), and I've liked brown (everything from Indian to Latino to South American XD) dudes. Basically, I've liked someone from every "color of skin" out there. Sometimes I didn't want to admit it, I wanted to have "a type" but I've realized that looks just don't matter. If you get to know them and love them, you'll find things you like that you thought you never would, and it'll be ok. Also, the people I've loved the most... are people I never saw coming. Now, I've still never actually been in a relationship... I've been close... but not quite and I used to not be ok with that. And still... I sorta feel like falling in love and marriage is soooo important to me, but I'm realizing that its Ok to be single. Its a special time God gave to us, and we have to use it wisely. It's hard for me, but I'm working on it and in the mean time, really trying to be the type of girl to attract a man that I want and God would be proud of. So... Pray for me! I'll pray for you too! No matter what stage you are in.
God Loves You. He always has, and always will! ^_^
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